As every successful cult leader knows, it\u2019s vitally important to instill doubt in the minds of potential recruits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you can get someone to doubt their life choices, for example, it becomes much easier to sell them on a new life path \u2013 in this case, becoming a member of your exciting new movement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But even if you have no desire to mentally enslave those around you, I still recommend that you master this core tenet of persuasion because you’ll be using it on a daily basis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Speaking of \u201cTenet,\u201d if you wanna convince your buddy, who\u2019s not a Nolan fan, to check out his new flick, you\u2019ll need to first loosen up the existing belief that\u2019s in the way (e.g., Nolan movies are too long, too hard to follow, etc.).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Good salesmen also use this approach. They\u2019ll make you doubt any concerns you might have about purchasing a product (e.g., you don\u2019t need it, you can\u2019t afford it, etc.) while creating a sense of urgency to buy today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
One of my old mentors (a sales trainer) teaches his students how to create an undetectable anchor\/trigger for the state of doubt, so they can fire it off whenever a customer brings up an objection. A sneaky but useful trick, for sure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And just like with all persuasion tactics, planting seeds of doubt can also be done for nefarious purposes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For instance, a skillful manipulator knows that if someone is made to doubt their ability to make good decisions, they\u2019ll be more likely to defer to the manipulator\u2019s judgement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But what might happen if you go one step beyond that and make them feel like they completely screwed up their PAST decisions, like their choice of career, choice of spouse, and their most important life values?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Well, we can assume they’d end up extremely confused and ripe to be manipulated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you take a look at NXIVM\u2019s se-x slave division (lol), all of those girls had their agency methodically removed over time. They were conditioned to second-guess all of their beliefs and gut instincts so they could then be trained to ask for permission to do the tiniest things (like eat a cookie).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Unscrupulous people have been using this approach to enslave others since the dawn of time. Women, for example, can get trapped in abusive relationships when made to believe they don\u2019t deserve better and would be completely lost if they tried to move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Make someone doubt they could ever be happy without you, and they’ll be too afraid to ever try. And like all successful megalomaniacs, the NXIVM guy took this approach to another level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Consider that many people attending an initial NXIVM workshop were already doubting their life direction to some extent. An organization can then expand on that doubt while offering up a more appealing vision for the person\u2019s future (which might include status and respect, a like-minded community, and a way to fulfill their highest life values).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once the recruit has fully bought in, they\u2019ll tend to look to others in the organization for guidance as they work to “prove themselves” to their superiors. And since they\u2019ll need plenty of help navigating the cognitive dissonance that arises from adopting an entirely new life direction, it won\u2019t be hard for the culty chieftains to eventually foster a complete dependency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And don\u2019t think this process only happens in crazy se-x cults. Whether you consider yourself to be right wing, left wing, pro-2A, a tantra practitioner, or a climatologist, you\u2019re part of a group that has an established ideology, along with clearly defined \u201crightthink\u201d and \u201cwrongthink.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And each tribe influences their members to think in a certain way and mindlessly repeat the approved talking points, rather than consider things from multiple angles and formulate their own conclusions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because if you were encouraged to think for yourself, you\u2019d quickly discover that no one group has all the answers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You might also realize that something is a bit off when your beloved guru, who’s been promising to impregnate you for over a decade, once again reneged on his promise because you failed to recruit another batch of sorority girls for the weekly orgy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
(Then again, perhaps it\u2019s a perfectly reasonable excuse. Anyone who screws up a se-x party should be sent to the gulag.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Like I\u2019ve been saying, I obviously can\u2019t hold a candle to this guy. But what I CAN do is help you turn a girl you\u2019re dating into your own personal se-x slave while making her doubt she could ever find another man who makes her feel this incredible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But let me warn you\u2026 my se-xual slavery program is as \u201cwhite hat\u201d as it gets. It\u2019s so squeaky clean that Keith Reneire wouldn\u2019t trust me to mop the floors of his se-x dungeon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So if you\u2019re ok with using ethical manipulation tactics (like making a girl feel so amazing that she pursues more time with you of her own volition), then this might be right up your alley\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n