One of our members had a question about yesterday’s email…
“I’m constantly worried that bad things are about to happen to me, particularly when things seem to be going well. This makes it difficult to enjoy my successes because I’m always worrying about the future. Any tips for this?”
I think most of us can relate.
Once you’ve been blindsided by a traumatic experience, the flight or flight system can get stuck in “red alert” mode, trapping you in a constant state of dread as you wait for the next domino to fall.
There are a couple of useful ways to reprogram this thought process.
First off, you need to accept the fact that is cyclical. Everything’s in motion and constantly changing, just like the seasons.
Up, down, up, down, up, down, forever and ever.
So, yes, when things are going well, it’s only a matter of time before your cush situation starts falling apart.
But the opposite is also true – when your life is looking like a total shitshow, things will eventually start trending upwards.
This is a basic law of the universe. To resist this is to resist the very nature of reality, itself.
Here’s a better way to think about the inevitable chaos coming your way…
Uncertainty happens to be a key piece of the happiness puzzle.
Without life’s peaks and valleys, you’d be bored out of your mind. Which means that you need SOME level of uncertainty in order to be happy.
There’s an old Twilight Zone episode where a bank robber gets shot and wakes up in the afterlife, which happens to be an absolute paradise. He’s surrounded by great food, stacks of cash and beautiful girls who obey his every command.
Whatever he wants, he gets.
And first, he’s ecstatically happy. But as the months go by, the novelty of having everyone saying “yes” to his every desire, along with not having to work for anything starts to wear off. He eventually has enough and tells his personal butler to bring him to “that other place.”
And that’s when the butler replies,
“What made you think you were in heaven, Mr. Valentine? This IS the other place.”
The closing narration:
“A scared, angry little man who never got a break. Now he has everything he’s ever wanted – and he’s going to have to live with it for eternity – in The Twilight Zone.”
Wooooo weeeeee. It’s freaky Friday.
Getting back to the point of all this, start seeing the utility in the chaos that’s coming around the bend. Instead of worrying about it, embrace it. It’s there to help improve your life.
“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.” – G. Michael Hopf
Hard times will toughen you up so you can help create good times for yourself and everyone around you.
Next, realize that you can handle ANYTHING that life throws at you, especially since everything that happens to you is there to benefit you in some way, remember?
So what’s there to worry about?
Absolutely nothing. So chill out and enjoy the peace of the current moment before it’s time to head back into battle.
“But winter is coming!”
Big fu*king deal. You’ve got this.
Go slay some dragons, slaughter the undead and Mindvana your crazy auntie.
It’s good to be the king.
Ciao for now.
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