I’m gonna wrap up this happy joy joy series of emails with one last happiness tip:
Realize that you’re not competing against anyone besides yourself.
Social media has made us all believe that we need to be celebrities in order to feel good about ourselves. And no matter what we accomplish in life, it pales in comparison to what everyone else seems to be achieving.
Women are stressed out because they don’t look like supermodels, while guys are fuming because they can’t afford yachts and lambos.
And even though most of what we see on the gram is heavily exaggerated (or completely fake), it can still mess with our sense of self-worth.
In fact, there’s no better way to make yourself feel like a slacker than scrolling through your IG feed.
But here’s the real issue…
Anytime we feel bad when looking at something we’d like to have (e.g., a car, house, girl, etc.), we’re associating negativity to that object. Which means, to some degree, we’re telling our brains:
“This a BAD thing. Keep it away from me.”
If you want your life to improve, then it’s useful to train yourself to feel excitement and appreciation (instead of envy and emptiness) whenever you see something you’d like to have.
This works with money, women, and everything else you can think of.
The way I do this is by treating social media like a game. You win the game whenever you have ZERO emotional reaction to everything you see in your news feed.
There shouldn’t be any negative emotions or judgements, or even POSITIVE emotions generated from anything that you see (at least, not at first).
At most, I might appreciate the artistic composition of a picture, but other than that, I’ll keep myself in a neutral emotional state.
In other words, nothing I’m looking at has any importance to me, whatsoever.
If I can pull that off, it means I won that round. If I slip up, then I’ll quickly catch myself reacting to something and aim to do better next time.
Once I’m “winning” consistently, I then start bringing up feelings of appreciation anytime I come across something I’d like to have in my life.
My thought process sounds like this: “That person achieved it which means that I can, too, if I put the work in.”
This puts me in the right frame of mind to start moving towards the things I want without resistance.
Remember, the idea that you’re competing with random strangers in a zero-sum game is just an illusion.
In fact, there’s nobody out there to compete with.
While you might see Tyler Durden on the other side on the net sending blistering volleys your way, in reality, you’ve been hitting a tennis ball against the wall the whole time.
So put the idea of competition aside and focus on becoming a slightly better version of yourself each day.
And if you need some help with your ass kicking efforts, I have one last slot available for 1-on-1 coaching. Reach out to me and let me know what you’d like help with.
Ciao for now.
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